The Downfall of the Male Ego

Almost every man in a city, whether he’s an Alpha, Beta, Delta, Gamma, Omega, Sigma, or Zeta, or any of the other dozens of subtypes, wants to be recognised and appreciated.

What if I told you that a man’s brain, which translates wishes into words, words to be seen, heard, watched, and praised, is the most essential aspect of his person? Not his social status, wealth, attire, or muscles.

When I worked in human intelligence, I would instruct and supervise female operatives or so-called agents to strike up conversations with male targets.

After all, it all begins with an informal “hi” or “hello,” and the vast majority of men won’t realise what hit them or that they are the subject of social engineering information collection activities.

Please understand that when I say “social engineering,” I am not referring to simple chats on the internet or phishing for personal information.

No. When I say “social engineering,” I’m talking to its application within the context of human intelligence operations.

First, let me define “Social Engineering”:

Inducement of Conformity Recognising that choosing a PoI (male) is an aim based on the study of previously obtained information and decision-making processes is an important aspect of any social engineer’s research process.

What I’ve discovered in my professional life about what leads most men astray in love, work, and happiness is very shocking.

It’s in the human nature to hunt, impress, and claim the victory, therefore it’s no surprise that people enjoy chatting regardless of the man type to which they belong.

So, let’s get this party started.

Some people may embellish their roles in certain situations, create false espionage tales, or otherwise misrepresent their contributions.

Five reasons come to mind for why someone could act this way:

The need to feel liked and validated:
The need to be noticed and valued by others often leads people to exaggerate in this way. Others may respond with awe, respect, or fear if you claim to serve in a high-profile role, know influential people, or have access to classified information. This has the potential to boost a person’s sense of worth and confidence.

Make Up for a Deficiency in Self-Esteem or a Sense of Flaws:
Those who feel unimportant may invent scenarios in which they play a pivotal role in order to feel more significant about their lives. If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, playing a spy or a prominent figure could help you appear more interesting and successful than you really are.

Power to control and influence:
It’s possible to influence someone by claiming to have insider information or contacts. People are more likely to comply with requests or share information if they suspect that the other party is a spy or has connections to influential people. It’s a method of exerting influence over others.

Seeking Attention:
There are those who can’t function without the focus of others. In social circumstances, they can become the centre of attention by portraying oneself as a “man from the shadows” or an insider. Those who feel unappreciated or overlooked in their day-to-day lives will find this extremely appealing.

Fantasy and Escapism
Others engage in escape by making up stories or creating personas to play. They can mentally escape their reality by imagining themselves in a more exciting, dangerous, or influential role, especially if they find their current situation unsatisfying or dull. The fantastic becomes more real when shared with others.

While there are times when embellishing the truth is in everyone’s best interest, chronic and elaborate fabrications might point to more serious mental health issues. Counselling or therapy may help if a person’s grandiose or important stories are getting in the way of their relationships or daily life.

Last but not least, I’ll let you in on a little secret that the police won’t spill the beans on: most male fugitives will rush to their mothers or lovers.

This post was written by Mario Bekes